How to Tell if a Guy is a Serial Asian Dater (SAD)
At some point in every woman’s life, she realizes that she’s a magnet for jerks. For an Asian American princess, the jerks tend to be SADs (serial Asian daters). She might like the attention for a while, until she realizes that SADs are PAT (pathetic).
Perhaps there’s a guy at school or work who’s pursuing you. How do you find out if he’s for real or if he’s just into your wontons?
Signs of the Serial Asian Dater:
- He is Caucasian or black, but his last five girlfriends have been of Asian descent.
- He owns a silk robe, much like this one:
- He thinks Steven Seagal* is cool.
- When he met you, he asked, “Where are you from?”
- If you answered, “Boston,” “Chicago,” or some other American city, he said, “No, where are you really from?”
- He claims that white women are too independent and feminist (his code words for bitchy) while Asian women are traditional and modest (his code words for subservient).
- He claims that he dates Asian women because it’s a matter of physical preference, like how some men prefer blondes. As if that weren’t narrow-minded.
- He doesn’t understand why a smart Asian American woman like you rebuffs him.
The biggest sign that he may be a Serial Asian Dater:
* Steven Seagal is actually not an SAD, according to Who’s Dated Who. But he still looks like a douche in the Chinese jacket.
LOL, this is great. If anybody ever fly from Seattle and tranfer through Narita, you see lots of them. I usually call them creepy white guy.
LOL @ Ronit
I agree, Steven Seagal looks like a douche in that jacket.
I’m loving it!! Steven Seagal looks like douche in anything.
This article about makes me want to vomit. So, if it’s narrow-minded to prefer blondes, is it also narrow-minded to prefer guys who are muscular or tall or rich? I mean, it seems that any white guy who dates an Asian girl is an SAD. So while we’re generalizing, I could write a blog similar to this called, “How to tell if an Asian girl is a gold-digger.”
I mean, I think Asian women are typically more attractive than any other. Since I’m human, is it not natural for me to try for women who I find more attractive? On the other token, is there any Asian girl out there who wants to date a white guy who doesn’t find Asian women attractive? I mean, far be it for me to assume what women think, but if I was a woman, I sure would hope that my boyfriend finds me attractive!
I’m sorry, I just can’t let this go. I had a few more thoughts on the matter…
First, I like how you call it “‘Serial’ Asian Dating” in order to instill the idea that exclusively dating Asian women is as bad as “Serial” killing. Of course, the dictionary defines “Serial” as (paraphrasing) “happening repeatedly in succession rather than simultaneously.” As much as you try to use the word “Serial” as if it means “sociopathically insane,” the word itself doesn’t mean anything bad, it just refers to a style of repetition. That said, you could technically call me a “serial urinater,” since I urinate frequently, but not simultaneously. Of course, that’s a ridiculous thing to call someone unless you’re trying to portray their otherwise normal urination habits as bad. Nothing wrong with urinating, but calling it “serial” kind of invokes a negative connotation. Not wrong, just misleading. Yeah, I know… my petty example is ridiculous right? “Serial Urination…” how stupid! …kind of like the point you’re making here! Funny how I can take your point, substitute the scenario with one you’re not emotionally attached to, and now it just seems silly. …which is a fairly consistent phenomenon when you have a “narrow-minded” biased opinion such as yours.
I lived in Japan for a while… I speak Japanese and Thai, I study Mandarin and I can read Korean. I’ve studied Japanese, Chinese and Thai history rather extensively. So for a white guy, I have a little more than a passing knowledge of Asian cultures. When I date a new girl, I basically have to hide this knowledge from them because of this exact dumb-ass mindset that you’re portraying here. For some reason, Asian women are AFRAID of guys who show an interest in their culture! It’s kind of sad. I mean, not only do I have to hide facts about myself that could prove CRUCIAL in our relationship, but they’re facts that, for all intents and purposes, should be HELPING our relationship! Think about it… if you’re a born-and-raised California girl whose parents are Korean and don’t speak a lick of English, wouldn’t it be icing on the cake to have a boyfriend who can speak Korean and knows a little about Korean customs? No, I know… it’s better to have the absent-minded redneck jock… who knows jack shit about your parents’ culture, and probably calls you “slant-eye” to his friends behind your back… I’m sure that relationship will be pretty fun when his back-woods Confederate-wannabe family 86’s the two of you for poisoning the pure-white gene pool with a half baby… That seems a lot more sound than being with a guy who does creepy stuff like… showing an interest in your heritage.
And, why is it “creepy” or whatever to show an interest in someone’s culture? Most Asian-Americans are less than 2nd or 3rd generation. Meaning, they probably have parents who speak the language of their roots, who know the culture and practice the customs. In a culture where we constantly complain about not being progressive enough, or culturally intolerant or “narrow-minded (as you seem to be against),” I think it’s great that there are people who take interest in a world outside of their own. Don’t you think you should probably EMBRACE that instead of just writing these people off as “Pathetic SAD’s?”
In fact, let’s go back to the whole choice of words here… Now, if by “Serial” you’re truly using it in its correct context, you would be implying that the “Asian Dating” is not happening simultaneously (but consecutively). Okay, well… I’ve been known to date several Asian girls at one time. So, since my Asian Dating happens simultaneously rather than consecutively, I guess I’m not a “Serial” Asian Dater, am I? And… how about Asian guys who only date Asian girls? Would they be considered Serial Asian Daters, too? I mean… they exclusively date Asian Girls… in a “Serial” fashion… so yeah, I guess most Asian guys are Serial Asian Daters! I mean, I already know your response to this: “It’s different if you’re Asian!” So, answer me this: why is it different? If I prefer Asian women, what difference does it make WHY I prefer them? If I’m a good boyfriend who doesn’t cheat, treats you with respect and all that goodness, who CARES why I find you attractive? Shouldn’t you just be happy that I think you’re pretty? Then again, I guess life is tough when you’re so conceited that you can be picky about WHY someone thinks you’re pretty rather than just being happy that someone is attracted to you. Must be rough to think you’re all THAT and a bag of chips.
And why does the principle behind the motive change depending on what color my skin is? When I break this down, it seems like nothing more than a progressive preference I have towards Asian women. However, if you’re an Asian man who absolutely will not date anyone outside of your own race, that actually sounds a little more like racism. So, who’s really the bad guy here: The guy who prefers Asian women because they’re cute, or the Asian-supremacist who’s motivated by racial purity? I mean, I understand the cultural aspect, and I understand Asians only wanting to date Asians or Whites only wanting to date Whites, but if I only want to date Asians, why is it normal if I’m Asian, but if I’m white (with the same preference), I’m some kind of creep?
The first item you list as a characteristic of an SAD is that they’re white or black. Respectfully I ask myself, “wtf is that all about?” SAD’s are only white or black? Are you kidding? What if a Latino guy exclusively dates Asian women? Or an Indian guy? Are they not Serial Asian Daters too? In your eyes, If a Latino guy only dates Asian women, is that okay? But, if he’s white or black, it isn’t? Why is this limited only to white and black people? And who cares whether his last 5 girlfriends are Asian? Consider this: I prefer Asian women. I date an Asian girl, and she turns out to be a crack head who kills my dog and beat up my little brother, and I dump her! So, according to your opinion, am I not allowed to date any more Asians? The way you see it, if I had Asian girlfriends in the past, that just means I’m only gonna date YOU because I’m a creepy SAD (except if I’m Latino). So, I had a chance with one Asian, that’s all I get! Doesn’t that sound a little stupid to you? I didn’t make it with the first Asian who crossed my path, so now I’m doomed to settle for girls that I’m not really attracted to (except if I’m Latino)! That’s the most ridiculous garbage I’ve ever heard!
Now, the “Where are you REALLY from” question… well, that should actually be a sign that a guy ISN’T an SAD. If a guy is truly an SAD (as I would assume you would label me), he would usually be able to tell where you’re “REALLY from” by your last name (Yamaguchi = Japan, Huang = Taiwan, Nguyen = Vietnam, Pornatoonasookatoon = Thailand). An SAD is usually either going to have enough experience dating Asian women to detect a nationality without having to pry, or he’ll spend enough time fawning over Google Image search results of their favorite idols to be able to tell anyways (let’s clarify, it IS creepy to fawn over pictures of Kristi Yamaguchi or Ayumi Hamasaki… but, Taylor Swift and Reese Witherspoon is okay… similar to: Anime is for nerds because only nerds watch cartoons… unless it’s Family Guy). Most of these so-called SAD guys usually know a lot about Asian cultures because they’re practical people who can draw a logical connection between “interest in Asian culture” and “the ability to impress Asian women.” Of course, most of them crash and burn when they run into this dumb-assed paradox that seems to exist in which Asian women abhor men who like Asian women. Sounds stupid, but it kinda makes sense. As a white man, I sure hate when I find a girl who likes white men.
Finally, I want to address this bullshit about how we prefer Asian over White because we prefer Subservient over Bitchy. So, we can’t prefer a certain type of girl because of how they look, and we can’t prefer a certain type of girl because of how they act. So, in essence, what you’re suggesting is that we should just date the first available thing we can grab with 2 legs, and if we’re at all selective about it, that makes us narrow-minded creeps. That doesn’t make sense. Let me ask you, how many times have you turned a guy down because you don’t like how he looks or because you don’t like his character? Just the fact that you can sit here and basically spell out your distaste for Asian Daters proves that when it comes to preferences in attitude and appearance (since you don’t like guys with silk robes), you’re just as superficial as the rest of us. If you disagree, then here’s a little experiment for you: Go to a hospital. Go to the burn ward and find a guy with Down’s Syndrome who has no arms, burns on 98% of his body and some kind of major facial disfigurement. Date him with a smile on your face for at least 6 months and make sure you consummate the relationship. Then come back and talk to me about how creepy or evil it is to have a preference in looks and personality when selecting a mate.
Personally, I would much rather date a nice, conservative church girl who minds her P’s and Q’s than a club rat with a bad attitude and a big mouth. God knows, my life is complicated and clusterfucked enough without having to share it with some over-made-up bimbo to add a bunch of bitchiness and drama into it. The truth of the matter is that typically, yes, Asian women tend to be more conservative. I don’t prefer that attitude because I don’t know how to HANDLE a white woman, I prefer it because I find it extremely unattractive when a girl is being a loud-mouth know-it-all who doesn’t know how to carry herself in a social setting. Girl A… Girl B… I prefer Girl B. Why should I settle for Girl A? Why is that fair for me OR Girl A? Moreover, why is it fair for me that Girl B is harder to get now, because she read some half-witted blog written by some dim-wit who doesn’t know me OR Girl B, but is gonna generalize the situation because I’m white and I’ve dated more than 5 Asian girls?
True, Asian women are typically more conservative than white women. But, in all actuality, an Asian-American born in the USA is going to have a comparable attitude as any average American girl. So, once you’re Americanized, white, black, brown, Asian, green or purple, you’re Americanized. However, when you compare an Asian-American to a White American with the same attitude, I’ll almost always take the Asian girl because she’s MORE ATTRACTIVE!!!
Look, I know what it’s like to be objectified. I’ve dated girls from other countries on J-1 visas who, after knowing them for a week, they wanna marry me. Do they really love me enough to marry me? I don’t think so. I’m sure they’re just looking for an anchor (or in your case, my “wontons”). So, we can sit here all day and talk about how horrible white guys and black guys are because they want to date girls they find attractive, but we could also spin this back on the (hell of a lot more) Asian women around the world who would risk life and limb to marry the first willing guy they can find with a Social Security Card.
I’ve dated a few dozen Asian girls in my day, and I find that 95% of the time, Asian girls who have this stupid mindset you’re describing are Asian-American. In Japan, an Asian girl looks at a white guy as rock-star eye candy. In America, we’re creeps just because we find them attractive. It’s amazing… I’m not sure what it is about this country, but there is something in our water or air or food that turns people into total assholes when they move here. I’ve dated girls who are FOB from Korea, China, Thailand, etc., and they’re the sweetest girls I’ve ever met. But, as far as the born-and-raised yankee, Asian or white, a stuck-up American with a shitty attitude is a stuck-up American with a shitty attitude, bar none. By writing this blog and walking around with this dumb-ass, cenacle attitude, you’re putting yourself in no better of a category than the rest of the close-minded, ill-progressive nitwits who work so diligently at keeping our culture a laughing stock for the rest of the world!